A Guest Post by Nicolle Sisia
Tonight was no different than any other night. I was on my evening walk, singing a new Bruce Springsteen tune when I saw a penny in the road. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not THAT cheap…but I am superstitious. I don’t step on cracks, I believe what goes around comes around and without fail, I will pick up a penny when I find it “heads up”. It’s good luck, right? So here I am, continuing my walk, looking at good ol’ honest Abe when I started to notice something. The shape, texture, and overall quality of the penny bared a striking resemblance to me, my self-esteem, and how I perceive myself. To anyone else, this was simply a penny, one cent that in the grand scheme of things would probably have little financial impact. But to me, I saw something different.
Upon closer examination, I found this particular penny to be dull in color. In addition, it had nicks and scratches, clearly from being tossed to the side and damaged from oncoming traffic.
Now, you’re probably asking, “How does this penny have anything to do with me as a person?” Think about it. How often do you begin a new diet, one that you hope and pray will have greater success than the last one, two or ten? You are tired from dieting. Your color, much like that which radiates from a new penny, begins to wane. You feel beaten down, run over, and depressed. You want to shine! You want to look and feel healthy, happy and at peace with YOU! But, with each weight loss attempt and failure, you add another “nick” to your already tarnished self-esteem.
So the question I pose is simple.
How do you transform your mental, physical, and emotional awareness into that which allows you to exude the confidence that is buried deep within?
5 Simple Steps to Renewed Weight Loss Self-Esteem
1. One day at a time, one meal at a time.
You may have five pounds to lose or you may have ten. Maybe it’s a number you wouldn’t share with your best friend. Whatever your goal, realize and accept that long-term weight loss will take time. The reality is, is just isn’t going to happen over night, no matter what all the mainstream diet programs tell you. When you accept this fact, and break the goal into smaller pieces, your chances of success will be much greater.
2. Focus on the goal and accept the challenge.
Speaking from personal experience, dieting and pushing yourself physically to that next level is never fun while you are in the midst of the challenge. Finding peace within yourself and loving who you are every step of the way may seem easier said than done, but it is a huge part of the process, and a key factor in those results sticking for the long term. By choosing to focus on the new you, and loving yourself fully in the interim (extra weight and all), you are keeping yourself mentally in a constructive place, and not allowing the challenges to become obstacles that hold you stuck in the past.
3. If everyone threw their problems in a pile, you’d be quick to take yours back.
This always reminds me of the necessity of perspective and patience. While it is important to find strength and peace, remember that there are those whose struggles you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. Be grateful for what you have now, problems, or what I like to call “growth opportunities,” and all.
4. Small Victories.
A goal isn’t achieved in one quick move, it’s a slow climb. Identify and celebrate the small steps that guide you on the path to your goal. It may be a one-pound weight loss, a friend commenting on your newfound confidence, or how you resisted a temptation that you normally would have given in to. Whatever it is, observe, embrace, and enjoy.
5. Support, Support, Support!
Find others who will support you on your journey. Turn to them to share your victories and lean on them when you need encouragement.
Armed with these five tools, I now ask you this…
Are you ready to say goodbye to the negative self-talk, yo-yo dieting and feelings of failure?
You have complete and total power to heal your nicks and scratches, allowing your true self to shine in the sunlight. What do you think? Isn’t it time to – GO FOR IT?!
Nicolle Sisia, a fitness and nutrition enthusiast from New York, enjoys all things related to the health and wellness – especially training, running, kickboxing, spinning, and cooking. She often spends countless hours in the kitchen, creating healthy and flavorful meals that satisfy the mind, body and palate. On her journey to her “best life,” Nicole has participated in three figure competitions and recently placed 3rd in her class. She is dedicated to educating herself on the mind-body connection, commited to making peace with her body, and feels inspired by sharing her life lessons with others so that they might be able to gain some clarity on their own “best life” journey.
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Well said! I just posted about something similar to this yesterday. Acceptance, enjoying the journey, taking it one step at a time and having a network of support makes a big difference.
A wonderful analogy and true, how quickly our patience wanes leaving us with a sense of frustration, failure and dead enthusiasm to move forward. We are a generation of instant messaging, time schedules, full agendas, fast cars and power bar lunches. One would think that all that racing through life would increase our metabolism, leaving us as thin as a rail. Oh, but if only that were true. Perhaps we do need to slow down, realize that purpose and goals need to be nurtured slowly, leaving us with a new “shiny” look.
Nicks and scratches are not so bad. It’s what we do with them that counts. I think they’re necessary for us to learn and grow. I’ve had many nicks, scratches, bruises and without them I wouldn’t be who I am now. Even though my penny has an older year on it my penny is a shiny, heads up one with nicks and scratches and maybe a bit flattened out by being run over so many times.lol….
You are so right, It is in our power to keep the shine going on. thanks for the good article.
This is so true. I find that for me, when I work out, I’ll compare myself to myself. What I mean is I feel victory when I moved from 8lbs weights to 10lbs weights. Or I was able to run 3 miles on the tread mill at 5.5 up from 5.0 speed. It shows me that I am making progress. So rather than look at all the super athletic people at the gym; I just look at myself and how far I’ve progressed.
Perhaps the old adage that “we are our own worst enemy is true”….but like any addiction, it is difficult to see ourselves in a brighter (more successful) light. In a society of fierce competition, we see others who are brighter, prettier, achieve greater success, earn more money, and have more harmonious marriages. If you have a chance read Erma Bombeck’s book, “The Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side”; a hilarious look at what we think we need; what we think we want; and how the realities of life really shape our existence, and our thinking.